” ‘Why’ is the only question that bothers people enough to have an entire letter of the alphabet named after it.”
Douglas Adams in The Salmon of Doubt, 2003
During our lives we go through a lot of experiences. Some experiences are good, some not so good, perhaps traumatic. Sometimes we subconsciously or unconsciously engineer self-destructive events and build up defences in order to deal with disappointments, loss, heartbreak and other difficulties. These defences can manifest, for instance, as addictive patterns, broken relationships or not feeling able to sustain a job.
Counselling provides a safe, trusting and containing environment in which we can respectfully and carefully explore our behaviour(s), gently challenging long-held beliefs, perceptions and judgements, which may no longer be useful, but feel like ‘default settings’ and automatic responses. This can often feel unchangeable and “just who I am”.
Thinking about talking out loud about our very personal thoughts, hopes and desires, as well as our fears, dreads and doubts, can feel intimidating. It’s okay to feel this way; contemplating revealing ourselves and feeling vulnerable is a little daunting. It’s also courageous.
If I Would Like to Try Counselling, What Do I Do Next?
If you’re thinking you want to give counselling a go but don’t feel ready to commit to regular weekly sessions, we can arrange an initial assessment session so you can see how it feels. There’s no obligation to do anything you don’t want to do.
"It is a joy to be hidden, but a disaster not to be found." – D W Winnicott.